7 Things I Learned From Being A Kid

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We’ve all learned a couple of things from being a kid and we have all had some positive and some negative childhood experiences. As a kid, I was extremely shy and very awkward. Which is like the complete opposite for me now, seeing as I am outgoing and talkative. But nonetheless, here are the seven things that I learned from being a kid.

You’ll never outgrow your favourite toys.

I still wish I had my entire Hamtaro play set, all four of my Tamagotchis, my Pixel Chix set, my Hamtaro plushies, and my My Scene dolls. Some days I just look on eBay and dream of buying them all back. On a more positive note, I still sleep with Blankey every night. It’s a Winnie the Pooh blanket that was bought a week before I was born for me, and my boyfriend and I love it. As a kid I’d tell my parents, “When I become a bratty teenager and want to throw it away, make sure you hold onto it, okay?” Well thank God I never went through that stage.

Christmas is the absolute best time of year.

Even though Christmas is great as an adult, it just doesn’t feel as magical as it did when you were a kid. I learned that being a kid is great because you believe in magic, you are innocent and carefree and just focus on having fun. Cookies, presents, trees, snowmen, snow angels, Santa, reindeer, Christmas movies, and the scent of pine all bring back nostalgia from a person’s childhood. 

Adults are not always right.

When you’re a kid, adults seem so superior. They are older, can tell you what to do, and can boss you around. As a kid you think adults are perfect and never make any mistakes. But as a matter of fact that is indeed very far fetched from the truth. Adults are not always right, and as we grow up, we learn that.

It’s okay to be weird.

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Let’s get one thing straight: people are judgemental assholes, even as kids. If you’re not alike everyone else and you do your own thing and have different interests, you will be an outsider, teased, called weird, and even bullied. But as we grow older, we tune out what everyone else is saying because we are happy for who we are and what we like. We no longer need to listen to others, we’ve grown and learned that it doesn’t matter what anyone else has to say. If we’re happy, then that’s all that matters. Besides, being weird is better than being just like everyone else.

You need to have confidence in life.

Confidence is key. Once you have confidence, you can be happy anywhere you go. Having confidence in life is crucial. If you never think you’re good at anything or have a good ability, then where will you go? Doubting yourself is the worst thing you can do for low self esteem. Be positive, be confident, and good things will come your way.

Never take anything for granted.

If something (or someone) good is happening in your life, never take it for granted and assume it will always be there. Smile, be happy, and love it. 

Just breathe because you’ll make it one day.

This last one is more like a message to myself. Like previously said, I was a really weird kid. As I grew older, I didn’t have many friends, I had a weird style, I didn’t act like everyone else because I matured way quicker than the other kids, I had different interests, and I had a different personality. Therefore, in grade school I was bullied and teased and harassed, even by the teachers. There was probably two teachers that actually showed me respect at that school. No one ever believed in me, I was just that ugly weird girl in the corner who has one friend, wears Hannah Montana tattoos in her face, hides in the bathroom during recess and hides in the locker room during gym class. Yeah, I didn’t have much confidence then. But bam, I was thirteen and I wrote and self published my first novel which made kids in my class glow with envy. Then I wrote, directed, and starred in a Christmas play that the whole school and their parents came to see. Then I graduated and more years passed. I fixed my eyebrows and my hair, I wore make-up, I had a better style, but more importantly, I found myself and grew confidence. (I was kinda teased in high school too, but I brought it onto myself by being a bitch. Oh well, those people deserved it.) Now I run a blog, have an amazing older boyfriend, run a YouTube channel and actually have a fan base, and I’m trying to get my books in the stores. So see, kiddies, anything is possible. Believe in yourself to be a better person. Just remember to be kind to others even when it’s hard, and love yourself!

See you soon,

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7 Tips To Reduce Stress

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7 Tips To Reduce Stress

Stress is one of the worst emotions to feel next to anger and depression. Stress can affect your everyday life, including your health and the way you interact with other people. Here’s 7 of my most favourite tips to reduce stress, whether it be the bad kind of stress, or the good kind. (Yes, there is a good kind; it can be a motivator to work harder at something which will later result in you feeling more confident.)


 

1.) Diagnose the problem 

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Nothing can be solved until you do this step. If you do not find out what it is that is bothering you, it can make you feel even more stress and prolong the issue. Is it something personal? Something work related? Did you have a lot to do this weekend, but you slacked off? Or are you and your best friend in a fight? You’re in charge of planning a dinner party at your house? Whatever your reason for the stress you’re feeling may be, it’s crucial to detect what it is first so you are able to target the problem directly. 

2.) Determine its size

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It’s always a good idea to ask yourself this question before taking action to deal with your stress. Is this something that will affect you in a year? How long has it been affecting you? And most importantly, is it in your reach to control, or out of your reach to control? For example, if you have three big projects due by the end of the week, that is definitely in your reach. With enough motivation you will be able to get them done, and done well. But if you’re stressed over what someone said to you, or what you said to someone, or maybe you’re stressed because your phone fell on concrete and smashed and there is no way to fix it, is not in your reach to control. Instead of taking action, you will have to find another way to cope with the stress in a healthy manner. Make sure you understand the size of your stress before proceeding.

3.) Create a plan of action

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This is my favourite way to reduce stress. Whenever I have a problem, I take out the note application on my phone and/or iPod and jot down a plan or action. This could mean anything from a timeline to a couple paragraphs explaining how you’re going to resolve a certain issue. For example:

7:00-8:00 PM = Work on Math Project

8:00-8:30 PM = Work on Science Project

8:30-9:00 PM = Break (etc, etc, etc . . . )

By listing every little thing that needs to be done, will save you a lot of pressure, stress, and is good for time management. By creating a to-do list with a timespan, you are able to set goals for yourself and when completed, give yourself a reward. If you’re going to be making a plan of action for something else, such as how you’re going to resolve a social issue, you can write a paragraph or two with steps and explain how you will resolve the issue. By doing this you can have a thorough plan made up and when you go to put it into action, you’ll never feel unprepared.

4.) Talk about it

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Whether that be a family member, a friend, a partner, or a therapist, talking about your problems is very therapeutic. To hear yourself speak the words you are thinking is helpful on its own. But by talking about it, you’re also letting your emotions run out and others to take that in. When someone sympathizes with what you’re telling them, you will feel better, too. If you are also seeking advice, make sure you go to someone who either has had the same situation as you, or someone you feel comfortable talking to. Even if it’s a small problem, and you wouldn’t mind telling the lady sitting next to you at the bus stop. Anything goes – talking about your problems helps you let go of some of that anger and stress, and allows others to give you new tips to cut down on that stress in your life.

5.) Write about it

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Much like talking about it, writing about it does the same thing except you are not letting anyone else into your thoughts. This is a much better solution for some, because they get to read what they wrote over and over again and come to conclusions on their own. Writing for many (including myself) is also like an escape from the real world; a place where you can write and say anything you want, and when you want to say it. Writing can be relaxing, and it’s almost as if you are venting to someone. If you are willing to let the cause of your stress go, then writing all of your feelings down somewhere can be a big help.

6.) Exercise

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No matter how much you hate it, you feel amazing when you accomplish a great workout! Movement melts away stress, gives you energy, and makes your endorphins pump all over your body. When you exercise, you not only feel good about yourself, but stress reduces because of the chemical that is being released throughout your body. You forget about your problems and are focusing on yourself and your workout, and the endorphins make you feel happy and strong. So, go hit up the gym!

7.) Rest

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Like stated at the beginning of this article, being tired can cause stress. Whether it’s because you only got two hours of sleep, you aren’t eating right, or it’s your T.O.M, being tired can make you feel very irritable and angry. Although getting 8 hours of sleep is a myth, because everyone needs a different amount of sleep, you still need to be rested in order to perform properly. Not only does it cause stress, it also makes all of your problems feel ten times the size that they really are. Have you ever had a really bad day, went home, took a nap, woke up, and then realized that there was nothing really to be cranky about to begin with? If you’re ever feeling stressed and exhausted, go take a much-needed nap. Your body and mindset will thank you later.


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